The Ultimate Act of Self Love

Embrace Your Inner Critic With Kindness Most of us have an internal voice that is judgemental towards others, the world and even ourselves. It is often called the inner critic, ego-mind or simply the ego. This inner critic always has something discouraging to say. It is very good at destabilising our mood by planting self-doubt. The result is often that we feel regretful about the past and fearful about the future. What to do with this negative mental voice? Can we silence it? Should we ignore it? Fight it? Bury it under positive affirmations? There is a smoother, kinder and conflict-free way to…

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Q&A: How do I start the self-love journey?

Q&A: How do I start the self-love journey? Question: Hi, I am new to the idea of self-love & self-care. My self-confidence is at rock bottom, and my anxiety is overwhelming. How do I start on the self-love and self-care journey? Answer: How to start the self-love and self-care journey is a question I hear very often. I asked it too when I started! It seems to me that most of us can't just switch from disliking ourselves to loving ourselves. Therefore I suggest you begin by noticing when you are not loving and caring towards yourself. Pay attention and notice when you…

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Self-Love & Self-Care

Most people struggle with a lack of self-worth and self-care to some degree or other. We don't know how to practice self-love or how to be available to ourselves when we are needy or upset. Not only that, but we often tend to reject particular parts of us. We want to get rid of specific unwanted habits, behaviours, emotions, addictions or physical features. How to accept what we don't like about ourselves? How to love what we reject or even despise? That is the big question! Understandably, we don't want our extra weight, illness, addiction, depression, divorce, unworthiness, anxiety etc. We hope to…

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Me, my Inner Critic & I

by Sabine BroscheI have many different voices inside. I suppose it is my mind talking. One of those voices is harsh, critical and mean. I call this one my Inner Critic: Sometimes it is so worked up and agitated – it is yelling at me. It says things like: Don't be so stupid. You are nothing special! Don't you get it? You are not good enough. You don't deserve that! And so on… So what to do with that shouty voice? I do recognise that this is what my Dad used to say to me when he was in a rage. Now it…

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Self-Love Poem

Kim McMillen, Author When I loved myself enough… When I loved myself enough I quit settling for too little. When I loved myself enough I came to know my own goodness. When I loved myself enough I began taking the gift of life seriously and gratefully. When I loved myself enough I began to know I was in the right place at the right time and I could relax. When I loved myself enough I felt compelled to slow down way down. And that has made all the difference. When I loved myself enough I bought a feather bed. When I loved myself…

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Rumi Poem

The Guest HouseThis being human is a guest house.Every morning a new arrival.A joy, a depression, a meanness,some momentary awareness comesas an unexpected visitor.Welcome and entertain them all!Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,who violently sweep your houseempty of its furniture,still, treat each guest honorably.He may be clearing you outfor some new delight.The dark thought, the shame, the them at the door laughing and invite them in.Be grateful for whatever comes.because each has been sentas a guide from beyond.— Jellaludin Rumi,translation by Coleman Barks

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